I am a huge supporter of and believer in relationship networking.
Relationship networking is all about cultivating business and personal relationships that help you and your business to grow. It sounds rather self serving and maybe even a little shallow, but in reality it’s what deep and lasting friendships are all about.
It’s a two-way relationship. It’s about giving more than getting. It’s about rewards that are not always tangible or economic. The compensation that comes is deeper and more profound.
One of the questions that I am asked most frequently by other VA’s is “How did you grow your business?” and I used to think it was rather by luck. A closer look reveals that it was all about growing relationships. When I served a client above and beyond their expectation, a bond was formed. As I got to know these clients, the bond grew and deepened. One of my oldest and dearest clients knows my child (and asks about her all the time) and treats her as if she were family. It’s clients like her that have helped my business to grow, develop, and thrive.
Meeting new people and thinking about all of the ways that they could market their business and being ever watchful for opportunities for them is all a part of it too. I’ve learned this from a great friend who also helped me to launch my business. She is one of those rare “master connectors” who knows absolutely EVERYONE and is never shy about making a referral or introduction. She is such a wonderful relationship marketer and a great example of someone who is worthy of being called a mentor.
If you have heard the expression that good work is hard to find, it’s one expression that most people believe. People would rather ask their friends advice before investing time and money into a project, then to have to weed through all of the possibilities to look for the one “diamond in the rough”. This applies to more than just looking for a great VA, it applies to looking for an accountant, a Realtor, even comes in to play when deciding what consumer goods to purchase, where to shop, and more. We all listen to our peers and weigh what they tell us with our own thoughts and desires.
So how do you become one of those people who your friends and peers will refer their friends and peers to?
It’s not really that difficult. It’s all in how you treat people and how you leverage those relationships. If you are honest, ethical, and fair people will think highly of you. If you seek to serve others more than yourself, they will come to admire you. If you are good to your word, they will see that you are reliable too. Once you have shown how hard working, honest, and reliable you are, keep your name on the tip of their tongues. Show up, be involved, stay in touch, be noticed. You don’t have to constantly call and pester and beg, but saying hello and dropping an email just to see how they are, sending a birthday or Christmas card– let them know you care and are thinking of them and they will remember you.
A lot of people when starting a business skip immediately over their friends and peers and start cold calling and soliciting for business from strangers. I’m not saying that you should immediately start selling to your friends and peers, but let them know that you have started a business, let them know who your target market is, and what you can do to serve and further benefit your target market, and ask for their help in getting the word out. Be honest, sincere, and frank about wanting to grow your business and expand. You never know who you know that could know someone who could be your next big client. But you’ll never know unless you first ASK. I’m also not suggesting that you ask your friends every time you want something, but ask for their opinion on the big things. Ask them to look over your new website and give feedback. Ask them to look at your brochures and let you know if they are eye-catching enough. Again, don’t bombard them with requests all the time, but from time to time ask for their opinions. People love to give advice, and will often give it unsolicited, so give them the opportunity to give it.
Another thing to remember is to take the “me” and the “I” out of your networking conversations. Instead of talking incessantly about your new business venture or your new project, ask your friends and peers how they are doing, how their business is growing, ask them how they overcame certain challenges or obstacles. Make it about them, not you. Ask about their grand kids or kids or pets. Ask them about anything having to do with them, and REMEMBER what they tell you. Ask them about some detail that you learned last time you saw them so that they know you remember them.
Building a business based on relationships really and truly is all about the relationship. Often we worry too much about where the money is going and where it will come from, that we forget about the people involved. Get to know people again, and you will feel rewarded by your business every time.